“My Better is Better Than Your Better”

At want point do bad habits become plain ole personality traits?

It might seem that a habit must be overcome and one must work harder and better.  But what if it is not possible because it is not actually a bad habit but just an unfortunate personality trait.

Then a few questions may arise:

Was this a bad habit that turned into a personality trait and a persons norm?

OR

Was this always a personality trait that was mistakenly believed to be just “something to work on?”

OR

Is a personality trait and bad habit one and the same?

In other words…

Can you make your better better than my better?  Can you make your better just as good as my better?  Or did your better never have a chance and expectations should be adjusted accordingly?